Before we get into this, I want you to think about the type of woman that springs to mind when you hear the phrase 'Good Christian wife.' I know this sounds super stereotypical but here's what comes to my mind. I imagine a sweet modest lady with a frizzy fringe & a mono brow. I imagine her memory scripture bank to be full to the brim & her heart to be so in tune with The Lord.
Ok next up, 'The smokin' hot Mama.' I imagine her to be groomed perfectly, dressed in something saucy with perfectly painted red lips to complete her look.
Isn't it funny how different the 2 ladies seem to be? We tend to see the one as extremely Godly & the other as extremely 'worldly'. I've written this blog for one simple reason, to remind us that as Christian wives we don't have to choose between the 2 ladies, we can & should be both! Yes a Godly, Christ like wife is exactly what we are called to be but I believe a wife who can turn on her sexiness is equally as important! Eyebrows raised? Keep reading & I'll explain what I mean.
We live in a world where even a Burberry perfume is advertised with a sexy, half naked woman. Our beloved husbands are faced with temptation daily & while we cannot control their purity & thoughts, we can most definitely help in their battle to remain pure. Prayer is so key in every part of our marriages but especially profound in the area of sexual intimacy. As we know, we are called to be our husbands helpers, (Genesis 2:18) but this means so much more than cooking his dinner & raising the kids. It means that we connect with them sexually regularly, it means enticing their minds & captivating their hearts. I know full well that there are squillions of women out there that are way more attractive than me, it's a given. But, I also know that I am the only woman in the whole wide world who my husband can look at sexually without compromising his integrity! I want him to do that regularly, I want him to "enjoy the wife of his youth forever." (Proverbs 5:18)
As Christian women, there are many differences between us & the world. One distinct one, should be the way in which we dress. We choose to honour God & our husbands by dressing modestly & with decency. I personally choose not to wear an array of clothes from, bodycon dresses to cleavage poppin' tops. But as soon as I get home, it's a different story. I purposely try to choose comfy 'home clothes' that are sexy. After having to 'eye bounce' (avoid temptation) in the outside world I want my man to come home & have a happy sight. Of course, I'm aware that if you have children dressing provocatively isn't a good idea. In this case I guess you just keep the skimpy outfits for the bedroom ;)
I don't want to create an illusion of having to look perfect all the time. I most certainly don't. The majority of the time I don't wear makeup at home as I like to let me skin breathe, but I always try to have the certain things in place (hair done, nails looking pretty, perfume spritzed & cute but comfy outfits.) I don't want my husband to say in years to come, "Oh, I remember how my wife used to look. Those were the days." NO! I want him to say something like "Oh my wife Sia, just like fine wine she just gets better with age." Hahaa, I'm giggling as I write that but in honesty, if we don't make a conscious decision to make the extra effort its very easy to get comfortable. And the problem with comfortability is that it usually leads to mediocrity & we as wives want to be excellent & not mediocre. (Proverbs 31:10)
So ladies, let's try to make the effort to slip into something sexy for our husbands. Don't wait until Valentine's Day, surprise your love regularly. Try to keep the granny pants for 'that time of the month' as appose to a Saturday night in ;) It's amazing how much sexier we feel when we've made that extra bit of effort & it's even more amazing how much it means to our husbands.
In case you're thinking, the guys are being left out, I definitely think they too should be making the effort for us too but as this blog is aimed at us ladies, lets do our bit & hopefully they will take a leaf out of our sexy booklet & do the same!.
Lastly, I want to remind you that sexiness means nothing if our hearts are not in tune with God, but a heart set on God, deeply in love with her husband, dressed in something special... Well lets put it to the test but I reckon it will do wonders for our marriages!
All my love,
Sia ♡ x