Over the past few months I've seen a trending hashtag scattered all over social media, "#RelationshipGoals." It's usually written under a cute photo of a beautiful, happy looking couple & well, I guess its meaning is pretty self explanatory. Call me old school but I'm not really a fan of this hashtag, I'll explain why.
Our generation is super focused on appearance & fitting in. We live our lives uploading snaps of how we want people to view us & our lives. It seems everything is about 'keeping up.' The world tells us everything from what we should be wearing to the kind of person we should be dating & even what food we should be eating. If we aren't careful its easy to get sucked into the trap.
I'm always super honoured whenever anyone comments something sweet under a photo of John & I. It makes me smile, after all we all like compliments right? Likes & lovely comments make us feel good about ourselves but there's something that makes me uncomfortable... Recently a young wife (like me) came to me for some advice in her marriage. When I asked her why she hadn't come to me sooner she said that she knew I hadn't experienced the problem so I wouldn't understand. That was in fact untrue. I had dealt with the same issue she was facing in my own marriage for quite a long time. She went on to tell me that she thought I had the "perfect marriage" (her words not mine.) This troubled me because this kind of 'labelling' is something a lot of us do & it can be very harmful.
It's so important to remember that we never know what goes on behind closed doors, am I saying that you shouldn't trust smiling faces on an Instagram pic? Not necessarily, I'm sure the majority of smiles are genuine, but what I am saying is that it's not healthy to put people (Pastors, Celebs. poeple in general) on a pedestal. Everybody goes through stuff, nobody has the perfect relationship. But we often forget that.
I'm aware that it may look like I'm being really extra by writing this blog but I've seen far too many people idolise other peoples relationships based on their appearance, money, possessions, fame ect & if that relationship crumbles the people who looked up to them crumble too. Their idea of perfection & "#RelationshipGoals" becomes shattered because they had unrealistic ideas about the people they looked up to.
On the other hand, if you are the one putting on a happy smile for Insta when inside you are hurting, maybe its a good idea to come off social media for a while. We can easily become dependant on the likes, comments & attention it gives us but it's always temporary. If you are unhappy or going through something in your life/relationship I urge you to seek Godly advise from someone you can trust. Please don't feel like you have to keep up a fake facade for social media, that world isn't real, yours is.
I also want to make it clear that I'm not saying we shouldn't look up to people, I'm just saying that we should be careful who those people are & that we need to be careful that we don't idolise them.
So in conclusion the only person we should idolise & aim to be like is Jesus. Jesus = Perfection. He & He alone.
"'Do not make idols or set up an image or a sacred stone for yourselves, and do not place a carved stone in your land to bow down before it. I am the LORD your God.
All my love,
Sia ♥ xx